The fights are getting more intense.
"It's not the frequency of arguing that matters, as much as the intensity and the outcome," says Rob Pascale, Ph.D., author of Making Marriage Work. "Arguments that don't end in a some type of solution, or that leave partners feeling as badly or worse, or embittered, than they did when they first started arguing, suggest there are unresolved or underlying problems in the marriage. The negative emotions that we send out provoke negative emotions as a response from our partner."